When I talk to non-cyclists about my longer road rides, I usually get comments along the lines of, “Oh, I bet your tush will be sore!” “My butt hurts just thinking about it!” Etc.
Truth is, even after my longest rides of 85 miles, my butt did not hurt. I was tired, sure. And perhaps my legs were fatigued or even hurt. But my butt? Never!
I am a firm believe that if riding a bike makes your butt or your crotch hurt, your bike is not set up correctly. DO NOT run out to buy (a) a new saddle, (b) a gel saddle cover, or (c) padded cycling shorts. FIRST, hie thee to the local bike shop and get one of the experts to evaluate your seat height, position, angle. (After this step is done, you may commence with shopping.)
I strongly suspect that many women who haven’t ridden a bike in a long time start out with the saddle TOO LOW because it feels less precarious and you can put both feet flat on the ground while still sitting on the saddle. However, if your saddle is too low you won’t put as much of your weight on your legs…and therefore your weight is almost entirely on the saddle.
If the seat is at the correct height FOR YOUR BODY, you will have most of your weight on your sit bones, some on the pedals, and a little bit on the handlebars.
Here are a few useful links to help you figure out how to be kind to your butt: